Critical Thursday 1

Thought of trying a little something something on Thursdays...Critical Thursdays.

In a nutshell, I ask a question and give out my version of an answer. Then you read, analyze, critique for spelling and punctuation errors, and you could even give me your own answer to the question asked by yours truly. (Would enjoy reading it, promises)

So...Here. We. Go.

To kick this off, I have to reference one of my good friends (BRY-TAY!) since he basically gave me inspiration on starting this by asking this question to me and his circle:

What does a woman want to have in the one?

Now of course, there were some short and sweet answers, some answers in essay form, and others had no replies; in the mixture of different perspectives, wants, needs, and desires...this question brought out a lot of emotion and thought. So here's my answer:

Cutting aside attractiveness, cuteness, and other physical appearance attributes of the specimen of her dreams, women want these 5 things in their version of the one:

Protection, Compassion, Love, Dedication, and Independence.

Don't worry I'll explain...

Protection: Meaning that she wants a man to obviously protect her both physically and mentally from harm. Doesn't mean that you have to have the upper body like the God of Thunder (unless she is into that sort of thing) but protect your woman! Make her feel safe when she is around you. When a woman feels safe just standing, sitting, or even cuddling right next to you...you're doing something right.

Compassion: Have a heart man. I know that this is something that most women out here think is non-existent because we are men! Yeah! Bacon! Gym! Video Games! GRRR! Anyway...yeah guys, learn this trait. Women want a man with a hard chest but behind that chiseled piece of equipment they want a heart...at least one for them anyway; when she is having a bad day, he comes in and tries to clean it up with a joke, tickle, or even a nice warm hug. Or even better...TALK! Showing compassion is not a sign of weakness; in fact she might reward you for showing your soft side every once in awhile (Hey-Yo!).

Love: This is the obvious one of the 5. Do you love her? Simple question yet complex answer...Do you love the girl?; better yet...does your actions and dialogue show it to her? If the answers are yes then congrats, you successfully have the 3rd thing. I don't have to explain this one since love varies independently upon the beholder but if you love her (and I mean really love her..) then yeah...should be fine in this area.

Dedication: It's one thing to love; it's another to be dedicated to the craft. By dedicated meaning that you're showing that you love her on the daily basis instead on just so-called important times. Now by dedication...that doesn't reference to spending a fortune on gifts, glamour, and propaganda. But hey...if you got it like that and show it off like that to yours then by all means go for it. Some girls...scratch that...the majority of women want someone that shows their love NOT in gift giver mode. Meaning, saying that I Love You, complimenting their wardrobe, cracking a joke, giving them a nice hug when you see them, making stupid faces at each other, taking her out for a dinner and a movie. See what I mean? Do you have the time to make her feel loved? This could be more important than love itself.

Independence: Tricky territory we are entering here interwebs. When you both are together as a couple, this doesn't really play into affect too much. But when you are both not in the same vicinity, can she be an independent female without your presence? Basically...can she be comfortable and herself in her own skin without you? Woman don't want somebody that will make her so clingy without you being around 24/7; you can't be around anyone for that long and not expect any fireworks to jump off (The Bad Kind.) Doing the couple stuff...yeah that's great. Remember...you have friends, family, co-workers, etc in your life as well that need your attention and services. When that happens, can she be an independent and do her thing while you go do your thing? Then when everything is finished up y'all can get back together and crash on the couch and watch a movie or cuddle up for the night? Ladies love people that let them be themselves both on and off the court so to speak. Don't be that one that turns them into a dependence. 

Whew! That was long...(Insert "That's What She Said" Lulz.). Think I got close to an essay answer but at least it's in paragraph form haha. But that's my answer to this week's question; would like to read some of your answers!

What does a woman want to have in the one?

Enjoy Your Thursday. Love Yo Face.