'Motions Defined: Doubt

"There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills." -Buddha

This is 'Motions Defined. A new entry topic on my Moternative blog making its debut.

Blog entries of mine with this topic takes one of the thousands emotions rolling around here and I focus on that as my general discussion with details about it, advice, etc,etc,etc! So let's start with the first one I picked out of my emo top-hat...DOUBT.

From my dictionary doubt is defined as "The uncertainty which exists in relation to a fact, a proposition, or other thing; or it is an equipoise of the mind arising from an equality of contrary reasons." Doubt has an affect on all of us since it can happen anywhere at anytime. I know that I experience this in certain situations so I can vouch that this has personally affected me in my lifetime.

It can be seen very common in young adults since they have a lot of decisions to make in the start of their bright careers if they make the right decisions. Do I go become a doctor? What if I don't like the line of work? Maybe I should look into being a reporter? But I love working on automobiles! Should I find work there? Should I go to college or just jump into working for a living? Where am I gonna live? Questions like these bring up feelings of doubt quite quickly since we are trying to figure out the best scenarios for us but we are scared of committing 100% until we are guaranteed that this is the best choice.

Doubt can make or break relationships. Think about it...if you have doubts that your man/woman really loves you, can you honestly love them back even if they don't? Love is beautiful thing at times but that brings on some challenges along the way that test people to see if what they have is true or just another lust trip.

Don't think that friendships got immunity from doubt either...far from it. Friends are great source of joy but doubt can make friends brutal enemies in just a matter of seconds. Does he really like me or is he using me for something? She wants me to act a certain way around her...that's what friends do right? Things like this can really question what kind of "friends" you really have.

I'm being truthful right here...I have made a bunch of great friends in my lifetime but I only call a few dozen as my true friends; The others are called acquaintances or crash test dummies in my book.

But anyways...how to control your doubt?

• Show No Fear: Approach situations with a clear head and figuring out everything until you are satisfied. This doesn't mean that you will be satisfied with the answer in every situation you jump into. Some things will not go your way and such...but you can feel that you at least got it done with. Finish them!!!
  

• You! Not Them!: People that you don't think like you for you? Give em the boot and make sure the door hits them on the way out of your life. You are special little seed on this dirt rock with your own mind, feelings, style, and energy. If someone doesn't like that, why should you bother changing to meet their own damn standards? Wave em' off and move on in the direction you want to go....and give a friendly honk as you drive by.

• Clear-Headed: Multiple thoughts in that noggin of yours makes doubt drive on the interstate straight to you. Try to not think too much. Now that might be a little difficult but keep it simple. Learn how to just think things through, be done with it, and lock it down. Having a simple thought process keeps you going, makes you less stress, healthier, and most important: happy.

• No plan? Mo' Problems: If your just going through the motions without some sort of plan of attack then your gonna have a few downfalls. Now I'm not saying that you need a bulletproof life-plan in order to succeed. Far from it. You just need a little blueprint that consists of what you wanna do, how you are gonna try to do it, and are you satisfied with the plan. Some plans can go bad in the middle of executing one...so having a few backups would be a good idea. Just FYI...gotta look out for ya right? :)

Doubt is always lurking in shadows but as long as your focused, it shouldn't take over you for very long. Just be yourself, surround yourself with positive energy, take negative things and feed it to your motivations, and go for the gold. Never..and I MEAN NEVER let anyone discourage you or take advantage of you.

It's hard finding that perfect paintbrush to paint your life but keep your head up. It's out there waiting for you to grab it and paint your canvas. Don't let doubt sour you, it's just another roadblock to conquer on your way to a better life.